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Talk about skating on thin ice...

This is 2011, after all, and people seem to be more open to new ideas and ways of dealing with conflict than ever before. However, is it ever a good idea to confront the mistress face to face in counseling?

That seems to be what LeAnn Rimes and her lover’s ex-wife, Brandi Granville tried to do but with little success. LeAnn and Granville’s (now ex-husband), Eddie Cibrian, tried to work out their differences so that they could at least be civil with one another. But, apparently, it didn’t really work.

“I did try some counseling with LeAnn, but it did not go so well for one reason or another,” Granville told RadarOnline.

Granville and Cibrian were married for eight years and have two boys together. The pair separated and divorced after Cibrian was caught having a not-so-discreet affair with Rimes, 28, while on the set of their Lifetime Television movie, Northern Lights.

Before LeAnn Rimes and Cibrian became engaged, Granville explained to RadarOnline.com that she attempted counseling with the country singer and it “did not go so well.” She also revealed that the two wanted her to sign a confidentiality agreement, but she said no.

"Divorce is very tough but going through it in public makes it really hard. Eddie and LeAnn wanted me to sign a confidentiality agreement but I refused to do that as I never did anything wrong." Granville explained.
She adds, “At times, I feel like they are blaming me, although I don’t really quite know why, but I understand it is a process and that our sons have to come first.”

Cibrian wasn’t the only adulterer in this situation, however. Rimes was also cheating on her husband, dancer turned chef, Dean Sheremet.

“My relationship with Dean was great, but ultimately it wasn’t a fulfilling marriage for either of us. We go married so young. I was 19 and he was 21, so as we got older, we grow apart,” Rimes explained to Shape magazine.

During this holiday season, Cibrian proposed to Rimes with a huge 5-carat ring worth around $85,000. A backlash soon followed from the public, many considering it crass that they would flaunt their relationship despite all the drama surrounding them.

Granville also added, “There is still a lot of animosity but hopefully, one day, we can move through that and get to a better place.”

The question remains, was it appropriate for Granville and Rimes to meet with a counselor? When going through a situation such as this, it would seem to make sense in a way to try and smooth things over with the scorned ex-wife. However, expecting her to sign a confidentiality agreement or apologize for anything (when she wasn’t the one who stepped outside her marriage) seems to be beyond reach. Rimes should have gone to her with remorse, and instead arrogantly asked her to keep her mouth shut about the whole situation. Why? It makes Rimes look bad, not Granville.

If the mistress and the ex-wife are going to try to communicate with one another, especially over something as tricky and as volatile as a broken marriage, there has to be a sense of humility and graciousness that extends itself with the olive branch, or as you see in this case, it may just end up backfiring all together.