Two Day Magazine

Zap that Feeling and Get Your Mojo Back!

We all have been there. Too much work. Too many responsibilities. Too little free time. Then, when you finally have a few moments to yourself, someone (or something) inevitably interrupts you, and the relaxation that you were anticipating, seems far out of reach. As we all know, when one cannot relax, one cannot enjoy sex. The catch is, sex helps to alleviate stress, but if you are too stressed out to enjoy sex, then you are really screwed! (And not in the fun way!)

Here are some tips to help rid yourself of stress so that you can enjoy sex once more!

(Your partner will thank me!)

Anxiety Be Gone!

Nothing can ease tension in the body and relax the mind like a nice, soothing massage. Whether you go seek a professional, or decide that your partner has the magic touch, an hour long body rub can really release tension not only in the body, but in the mind, as well. Gentle human touch has been shown to patients who suffer from anxiety among other ailments. What are you waiting for? You can even spice up your massage by incorporating edible body oils that are kissable and lick-able, too!

Yoga, yoga, yoga! Seriously, yoga is one of the best ways to de-stress and release tension in the body and mind. Anyone can do it, no matter what physical shape you are in. By allowing yourself time to clear your head, you are creating space to experience new emotions new things, like love and lust. Embrace them and enjoy your new, limber body in other places besides the classroom! As an added bonus, deep breathing techniques can also drive stress away, and if you incorporate deep breathing into your sex life, you will have stronger, deeper orgasms, as well!

Make a cup of Chamomile tea. This flowering plant, which is native to Europe and Asia has a long history as a medicinal plant and is commonly used in Europe for easing digestive ailments. Chamomile has anti-inflammatory properties and can also be used to heal insomnia, migraines, eczema, and of course, anxiety, to name a few. You can brew it as a tea, or take it in a capsule form.

DISCLAIMER: If you are pregnant or breast-feeding, you should NOT take chamomile. It is part of the Asteraceae plant family (which includes chrysanthemums and ragweed) so if you are allergic to either of those plants, you also should avoid chamomile. If you are on a blood thinner or have a bleeding disorder, do not take chamomile.

Reconnect With Your Inner Sexual Self!

You are in there, somewhere, I promise! Deep under all of the stress of your daily life is the person you once were: a sexual being. So, how do you get it back? How does one reconnect with that part of themselves? This disconnect can happen to anyone at any point in their lives. We all go through times in our lives where sex isn’t that important and our focus is on other things. But, you MUST make sex a priority! Set a night aside where you know you are going to be with your lover and only your lover. No cell phones, no kids, no interruptions. Buy a bottle of wine, light some candles, set THE MOOD. You are attractive. Your partner wants you. Accept it. Let go of your inhibitions and enjoy the beauty that is the human body. Life is too short to miss out on the pleasures of the flesh!

Just Do It!

Sometimes, the worst thing we as humans do is over think our lives. We over think what we should be doing, what we could be doing instead of what we are doing. Good sex means staying in the moment. Yes, it can be hard to focus, but in order for your relationship to flourish, sex has to be a priority. This is non-negotiable. Don’t make an excuse. Remember, this is supposed to be fun! So, let go. Savor your lover, enjoy the fact that you can take these stolen moments and turn them into something sweet.

Sex is a reaffirmation of life. So, soak it up, take the time to experience pleasure and to give pleasure. In the end, it’s what we are here to do, so we might as well embrace it and awaken ourselves to the possibilities of what a joyful sex life can do for your life in and out of the bedroom!