Two Day Magazine

Like attracts like...

Have you ever met someone who seemed to light up a whole room, just by stepping into it? What is it about some people that others seem to be drawn to...seemingly like a magnet? In our every day lives, many people often times feel invisible, and that lack of confidence keeps them from pursuing that dream job they secretly desire, cultivating friendships that bring joy into one’s life, and of course, finding a lover that could enhance their lives in many ways.

But, what is the secret to being magnetic? To being that person that everyone else looks to when they need lifted up? The person who’s first to the party and last to leave? In life, these people seem to have it all, and we presume that magnetism has mostly to do with looking like you just stepped out of the pages of Vogue instead of the energy that one projects. Since many of us don’t have a “glam squad”, we automatically assume that being magnetic is beyond our reach.

Well-known dating coach and tv host of Manhattan’s only interactive dating help-line, Dating Help 911!, Tracey Steinberg, has been helping others become more magnetic in their daily lives for years, and she is an expert on how to increase your magnetism and be that person everyone seems to be drawn to. Here’s what she has to say about the secrets to becoming more magnetic (no glam squad required!)

“Let me tell you this right off the bat, being magnetic is NOT about looking like Scarlett Johansson or Ryan Reynolds. If it was, those two would have been happily married at birth and stayed married. (And, we all know how that turned out!)

The secret to being magnetic stems from learning how to live in the moment and bringing your full attention to the good in whomever you are with. Pleasured people are magnetic because they see the good in others and look for ways to make moments more pleasurable for themselves and everyone else. In other words, the glass of life isn’t just half full, it is spilling over the brim with happiness, gratitude, and positive energy.

When I first meet many of my clients, often times they tell me that their lives “should” be different (i.e. they “should” be married by now, they “should” have a family, they “should have” found love already). But, when you focus your thoughts on what you don’t have, or what you “should have”, you forget to notice all the wonderful things that you already have in your life and thereby you miss the opportunities that you want to attract because you were too busy pointing out the negative.

So, what can you do to become more magnetic?

You can start by spending more of your precious time appreciating the good that is in your life right now. Life is good. The more we acknowledge that simple fact, the more goodness comes into our lives because we are open to it and accepting of it.

Then, I encourage you to interact more with the people around you in a positive way. You could smile and say “hi,” or you can do something kind like offering your seat on the train. Like attracts like, and you will be surprised how far a little kindness can go.

When you can begin to easily see the good in your own life and in others, and you continuously look for ways to bring pleasure to yourself and everyone around you; in other words, you’ll become magnetic!

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Check out Tracey's Show on Monday: In NYC you can find “Dating Help 911″ on Time Warner Cable (channel 67), RCN (channel 85), and Verizon (channel 36). If you are located outside of NYC, you can still enjoy the show (and call in with questions!) live by clicking here: http://mnn4.mnntv.org/OnAir/flash