Two Day Magazine

...When Your Lover's Away

It happens. You fall in lust, and then you fall in love. And of course, after falling in love, you want to spend every waking moment with that other person. But, one of the sweet ironies of life is, a lot of lovers are separated when one (or both) travel for their work. So, what can you do to keep it hot while your lover is away? Try these simple tips to keep the heat in your relationship, even when you are on other sides of the globe.

TIP ONE: SEX UP THE TEXT MESSAGES

It may sound a little silly, or even a little crass, but nothing gets me going more than waking up to a naughty text message in the morning. It puts that extra spring in my step. Whether you text “Oh, if you were here I would bend you over and…” (Fill in the obvious blank) or a simple, “Hey, I miss you and your sweet…” (Use your imagination, people), knowing that your lover is wanting you even when you are miles away can make that ache in your heart hurt just a little less until you see them again. Never underestimate the power of the text. It’s a lot easier than calling, and it’s always fun to save them and read them while you are drowning your sorrows at the bar later that evening.

TIP TWO: SPEAKING OF PHONES…

This tip only works if you are willing to put in the time and actually dial. Phone calls can be difficult.  Does anyone actually talk on their phone, anymore? I look at mine as more of a portable computer. However, they can be very useful if you are in need of some voice on voice contact.  It is a really nice way to reconnect, rekindle your relationship, yada, yada, yada. Let’s be real. Phone sex is fun. Obviously, not as fun as the real thing, but there is something gratifying in knowing that your sexual power is strong enough to get your lover to come over the phone. I tip my hat to you.

TIP THREE: NAUGHTY PICTURE MESSAGES

Do I really need to elaborate? Sometimes, as well all know, a little visual stimulation is just what the doctor ordered. This is why I keep my phone glued to my body at all times. You don’t need certain images ending up in the wrong hands.

TIP FOUR: DEVILISH WEB CAMS

Thank you! Not only can you talk to your lover while you are playing, but you can see your lover play. What could be better? I find this to be a great solution for those holed up in a hotel for the night and they just can’t seem to get to sleep. It’s a step better than calling. But, be warned, it could keep you both up all night. Try explaining that one to the boss in the morning, you little animal.

TIP FIVE: (THIS ONE IS FOR THE TECHNOLOGICALLY CHALLENGED) SENDING SNAIL-MAIL

That’s right. Some people actually pick up a pen and piece of paper and write little love notes. And, I applaud that. There is something very Victorian and sensual about your lover actually taking the time to sit and write down (in alphabetical order, I’m sure) all the dirty things they can’t wait to do to you. This is a great tip if you are going to be gone for a while and may not have access to the internet or be in a location where your phone can grab a signal. Besides, isn’t there something very romantic about sitting down in the evening with a glass of wine and reading all the wonderful things your lover thinks of you? This one gets major points.

Whatever your plan of attack, the important thing is to communicate.  Whether it be through romantic snail mail or naughty voice mail, you have to put in the time and show your lover that you are thinking of them even when they aren’t around. Because, the fire you create while they are away will only burn that much brighter when you see one another. Better turn off those smoke alarms.