Two Day Magazine

Well, at least according to this study...

I hate to break it to you ladies, but if you have a hot boyfriend and you’re thinking of tying the knot with him, don’t. What will happen is that you’ll end up in a miserable relationship because your hot boyfriend is going to cheat on you.

At least, that’s what some recently published ‘scientific’ research wants you to believe.

This new, groundbreaking, earth-shattering research warns women that if they have an attractive boyfriend or husband, it would be in their best interest to dump him.

Why? Because good looking men are more prone to cheat. It’s science, so it must be true, right? This particular study looked at 2,100 Air Force Veterans, who had a testosterone level higher than the average male and found they were 43% more likely to get divorced than men with normal levels and 38% more likely to cheat on their wives. Hence, good looking guys are more likely to be cheaters.

Since they used such a specific group of men as their sample, however, my first reaction is that this study is bogus due to inherent bias.
    
Another study, which really was the icing on the cake, looked at 82 newlywed couples and concluded that when the wife is hotter than the husband, the marriage is more likely to succeed.

Now, as a fellow hottie myself, and also finding myself in a relationship with another hottie, I began wondering if my relationship was doomed. I wanted to look through my boyfriend’s phone and email and see if he had been messing around on the side.

What if some girl was trying to seduce him and since he is so darn good looking, he left all morals aside and cheated because he couldn’t help himself? His hotness could have overtaken his judgment.

Of course, my hot boyfriend could also have the same about doubts me. It’s not just hot men who cheat.

Hot women (Elizabeth Taylor, anyone?) also have been known to mess around on the side. Even Princess Diana cheated on Prince Charles with her riding instructor. But, if hot people can’t trust each other, what is the world coming to?

Luckily, common sense took precedence and I realized just because I’m a hottie, doesn’t mean I use my good looks as an excuse to treat my relationship with disrespect. I should expect the same from my partner.
 
What this research does give “good looking” men, however, is an excuse to cheat and it also scares away women from dating men they are physically attracted to.

Whether we like to admit it or not, at the sake of trying not to sound superficial, we want to be physically attracted to someone we are sleeping with and if I am going to make the commitment to be with someone “till death do us part”, I want to have the desire to get in his pants as the years pass.  

So, what should you do if you decide to ignore this advice? Well, according to some other great study that Cosmo Magazine cited, you’ll decrease the chances of your hot boyfriend from cheating if you tell him he is “hot.” This, of course, is in total contradiction to the above study.

According to expert, Ava Cadell, PhD, author of 12 Steps to Everlasting Love,  saying to your boyfriend “ ‘You are so hot’ taps in to a source of deep-seated insecurity for many men and offers them the reassurance they're yearning for.” 

So, what do you believe? Will your boyfriend cheat more if he’s hot? Or, is the best way to keep him from cheating is to tell him he is hot. This is getting very confusing.

I, for one, refuse to buy into any type of advice that tells me I’m better off without my hot boyfriend because he is more likely to fool around with someone else. And, I refuse to believe that by just calling my boyfriend “hot” is the reason he won’t cheat.

The reality is, people will cheat because they are unhappy and don’t know how to communicate with their partner about their needs. People will cheat because they can get away with it. People will cheat because they don’t really belong in a monogamous relationship and are probably better off single or in a polyamorous relationship. People will cheat to seek revenge. People will cheat because they are feel undeserving of love. As you can see, the reasons are endless.
 
On to the future: my boyfriend and I have made mention here and there of marriage and what we would expect from our spouses with Honesty and trust as the two main ingredients.

If we ever make the decision to tie the knot, I’m going to marry him believing that he’ll be faithful. While I believe most people marry their partners with that belief, just because a few good looking guys have cheated on their spouses, shouldn’t influence a woman’s decision to not marry her boyfriend because he’s hot and vice versa. 

I don’t believe in making decisions concerning love out of fear. We can’t predict the future and no matter what you do to keep your partner from cheating, he or she (if they really want to) will find a way to cheat.

So, if you have a hot boyfriend that potentially will put a ring on it? Enjoy his hotness, but also look for those deeper qualities that make him a good partner. If his only good attribute is that you’ll make pretty babies together, it might be time to reconsider the relationship. 


However, if he truly makes you happy, then perhaps, his cute butt is just one more reason to love him.