Because rules were meant to be broken...
Do you ever feel like dating should come with a rule book? There seem to be so many do’s and don’ts out there, that often times, it is easy to become overwhelmed by all the things you are “supposed” to do when you want to be in a relationship or when you are in a relationship. But, what rules are really meant to be broken? Are some of the dating rules of the past no longer valid? Check out twodaymag’s relationship rules to be broken.
The Man Should Always Pay for Dinner
Quaint notion, but doesn’t really hold water, anymore. Of course, it is romantic and gentlemanly when the guy picks up the tab, no questions asked, but in this day and age, why not flip this rule on it’s head? Men, wouldn’t it be nice once and a while if your girlfriend grabbed the bill from your hands and said, “I got this one.” Ladies, not only does this move add a factor of surprise and excitement to the night’s events, but taking control may turn you both on more than you would expect. Romancing your guy once in a while takes the pressure off of him and can give you a sense of empowerment, as well.
You Can’t Look at Anyone Else When You Are Dating Someone
This is such a bogus rule and clearly doesn’t work, anyway. We are all human and we all are turned on by visual cues. A cute girl walks by in tight jeans...that’s sexy. A hot guy runs by shirtless...hey, nothing wrong with looking. The idea that being in a relationship means shutting yourself off to the rest of the human race is impractical and delusional. Instead of fearing that your partner is checking out other people, embrace the fact that out of all the people he or she could be dating, they are with you. Getting turned on by other people can also fuel the fire you have for one another, as well. There is nothing wrong with a little fantasizing to get those juices flowing...
Tell Each Other EVERYTHING
A little mystery is a good thing in a relationship, especially if you have been together for a long time or are married. You don’t need to delve into every play-by-play of the day. Skim over the stuff in your day that was mundane, and focus on what triggered an emotional response (whether good or bad). Realizing that the emotional connection is more important than the details will give you both more to talk about and the quality of the conversation will be better, as well.
You Have to Have an Orgasm Every Time During Sex
Letting go of this rule will really heighten your sexual experiences together. Having great sex doesn’t always mean that you have to have an orgasm. So many couple set themselves up for bedroom failure, because they assume if you don’t have an orgasm, the sex was bad. Well, that is not true. There are a lot of ways to enjoy one another, be it sex or just cuddling, and sometimes just the motions of sex can be pleasurable enough. Take the pressure off of yourself and your partner and see how good it can really feel to let go of expectations.
You Must Be Together Every Day
So many couples lose passion for one another because they spend too much time together. It is good to miss each other. Pick a day or two a week where you spend time doing things outside of your relationship, whether it be with friends or family, or just spending a little alone time to catch up on your reading or just relaxing. Spending time apart can make it more exciting for when you see each other, and it can also allow you both to reflect on the relationship and learn to appreciate each other more.