Two Day Magazine

Girlfriend wastes no time! Sandra is on the cover of PEOPLE magazine this week holding the new man in her life, a 3 1/2 month old little boy named Louis Bardo Bullock, who was born in New Orleans. Louis was to be adopted by both Bullock and Jesse James, a process that was 4 years in the making and they brought the baby home in January, but now that Bullock has washed that man right out of her hair, she will raise the child alone. 

He was named after Louis Armstrong, and Bullock says to PEOPLE, “He’s just perfect, I can’t even describe him any other way...It’s like he’s always been a part of our lives.”

Jesse tells PEOPLE, “I know in my heart that I can be the best father possible to my four children and the mate Sandy deserves, and realize that this is an incredible mountain to climb. But, believe the steps I have taken in the last 30 days are the foundation to making this happen.” He goes on to say,"James' reaction to the divorce has left a "huge hole" in his heart especially because Bullock has chosen to adopt son Louis as a single mom. "My whole life has been full of hard decisions. The decision to let my wife end our marriage, and continue the adoption of Louis on her own, has been the hardest. The love I have for Louis cannot be put to words. Not having him around to love and to hold has left a huge hole in my heart.".

(Can we say, “delusional”?)

They had been married for almost five years, and despite the mess that Sandra has endured over the past few months, she says of Jesse, “I really don’t know how our paths will intersect in the future, but the father I have known Jesse to be...is one that I hope Louis can experience one day, no matter how Jesse and I go on with our lives.”

In other words, game over!

Sandra claims that she was completely blindsided by the photo of her soon-to-be ex hubby Jesse James giving the Nazi salute, stating, “This is not the man I married.”

PEOPLE magazine asked her, “Were you aware of any interest [Jesse] may have had in white supremacy and Nazism?”

She responded, “The photo shocked me and made me sad. This is not the man I married. This was stupid, this was ignorant. Racism, anti-Semitism, sexism, homophobia, anything Nazi and a boatload of other things have no place in my life.” She went on to add, “And the man I married felt the same.”

As far as her marriage ending to James? She feels “sad and scared.”

I think this is so perfect. Here he is with prostitutes who have Nazi tattoos on their body, taking photos doing Nazi salutes, being accused of using racist and homophobic language at work, sexually harassing women and settling out of court; and she appears this week on the cover of PEOPLE magazine, totally triumphant, an Oscar winning actress holding her beautiful African-American little baby boy in the air that she adopted here at home from New Orleans, her wedding ring finger clearly on display in the photo to show her lack of a ring, and getting the last laugh in this if-it-wasn’t-so-pathetic-it-would-be-hilarious situation. If he couldn’t look any more like a fool, well, now he does.

Dr. Phil said something recently about you can tell if a man is a cheater from looking to his ring finger being longer than his index finger. This indicates that he was exposed to more testosterone while in utero, and therefore may be more sexually aggressive as an adult. This is a bit of an oversimplification of what makes a man a cheatiing scoundrel like James.

Instead, I think what happens in each relationship between two people is more complex than simply the length of a finger. What happened between them we may never know, but we can look to this as an example of how NOT to treat one another. He abused his marriage, he took for granted his situation, he acted like a child and now it bit him in the ass. Maybe she was taking on too much, trying to be a perfect step-mom to his children, working obsessively on new films, and creating a life for herself that was, indeed, a sham. But, we grow and we learn and she is obviously evolving past this...and Jesse? Well, time will tell for him.

It just goes to show you that when life hands you lemons, some people really do step up to the plate, have their grieving moments, and then pull their shoulders back, stand tall, and move forward into light and love. She is such an amazing example to women everywhere, that no matter how embarrassed, frustrated, sad, and fearful you may feel after being sideswiped by your cheating, no-good, soon-to-be ex-husband, there is always light at the end of the tunnel, there is always a reason to smile, and there is always good news to celebrate. She is truly a classy woman who took the high road in this mucky situation, and can now start to move forward, pick up the pieces of her life, and create a new, fabulous world for her and her little man. That’s one hell of a woman!

UPDATE ON STORY:

Jesse James responds:

"My whole life has been full of hard decisions.

The decision to let my wife end our marriage, and continue the adoption of Louis on her own, has been the hardest. The love I have for Louis cannot be put to words. Not having him around to love and to hold has left a huge hole in my heart.

Sandy is the love of my life, but considering the pain and devastation I have caused her, it would be selfish to not let her go. Right now it is time for me to beat this addiction that has taken two of the things I love the most in life.

I have always taken great pride in proving people wrong. That time has come once again to show that I am not what everyone says I am. I know in my heart that I can be the best father possible to my four children, and the mate Sandy deserves, and realize that this is an incredible mountain to climb. But I believe that the steps I have taken in the last 30 days are the foundation for making this happen. The lifelong commitment I am making is what being a real husband and father is all about.

I ask that you please do not judge Sandy for the things I have done. She has done no wrong. She played no part in any of this. She has been an amazing wife, mother, and best friend, for the over 6 years we have been together."