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I've recently married my high school sweetheart. We broke up after high school for three years, in which time he dated (and slept with) many women. I only had one partner in that time frame. We got back together two years ago and have been inseperable ever since. We are so in love with each other and everything is going really well. However, since we have gotten married, I have become very uncomfortable with anything "new" in the bedroom because I feel like he has done everything and I don't know anything. What should I do? He says he doesn't care and that we have a lot of time to figure things out, but I feel a lot of pressure to perform like a porn star. Any suggestions?
My partner and I are moving in together this week, and she tells me yesterday that she has cold feet suddenly. We have been dating for about two years, and at this point, I can’t understand why she is pulling back. I went through her phone last night and found text messages from her sister saying that she doesn’t like me and thinks it’s a mistake because I am a “control freak.” I’m not sure what to do. I want to move in together, and we already signed the lease. How do I get her on the same page?
Help, I need some relationship advice. Yes, I know that it is not the usual love advice, but I am really not sure as to what I should do. It was about this time last winter that I had the idea to organize a summer softball team for all of my friends. You know, play some softball, enjoy some summer weather, and drink some beer. I even found a sponsor for the team. I thought that it would be fun. Fun, it was not. Why could such a perfect plan fail you ask? Well I did not realize that non-competitive recreational softball would unleash the worst in one of a type personality friends, let us call him George.
From the start of the season, George made managing the team unbearable. At one point, he wanted to cut all of the girls from the team. I tried to explain that if someone showed up, they could play. (Also, as a single male, telling girls they cannot play is a good way to hurt your standing in the community). He would bench who played in the outfield while the game was going on, and he would yell at individuals who made mistakes.
During the playoffs, life became worse. He proceeded to call and text me at all hours of the day and night about suggestions for the upcoming game. I was happy when the season ended. Now, I am thinking of putting together another team. Several of the players on last year’s team have expressed an opinion that George should not be invited back, which sounds reasonable.
However, George was one of my first friends when I moved back to Pittsburgh. I go to dinner parties organized by George and his girlfriend. Recently, his girlfriend sent me an email saying that it would mean a lot to George if he was invited to play softball this season. What should I do? I don’t want to lose friends over softball.
I am freaking out. I started online dating this guy about six months ago and we haven’t met yet. I am worried that I am being “catfished” after what happened with Manti Te’o. I’m starting to question everything that he says as whether or not it is truthful. He lives in Montana and I live in Michigan so we haven’t been able to meet, but we talk online a lot and on the phone occasionally. He claims we can’t meet because he is in school and it’s too hard to travel and he’s broke. But I don’t know if I should continue waiting? I need your advice!
I was in a relationship with a man for about three years and we broke up about a year ago. Recently, I met this woman and I have completely fallen for her. She has reservations, however, because I was in a long-term relationship with a man. I have never been with a woman before and I am totally into her in every way. The sex is crazy, we connect on so many levels, and now it has been several weeks...I want to take it to the next level and be “a couple.” The only problem is, I don’t think she wants to, and I am afraid of getting my heart broken. What should I do?
My wife and I have been married for five years and our sex life has gotten pretty stale. We have twin boys who are in the toddler phase now and she just doesn’t seem that interested in me at this point. We have sex once or twice a week, but it always seems like she is doing me a favor, or that it is a chore. I tried buying her lingerie (she said it was uncomfortable). I tried giving us “alone time” by getting a hotel room (she just fell asleep). I don’t know what else to try? I know she loves me, and I love her, but I don’t want to end up cheating because I am not satisfied. Should I bring that up?
My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year now and I really want to do something special for Valentine’s Day. She hasn’t come out at work yet, and there is this dinner she has been invited to by her boss on V-Day with a few other couples. She said she is just going to go solo, but that really offends me. I know her career is starting to take off, but why does she feel the need to hide me? I don’t know what to do, but I really feel like just showing up at her event. Any thoughts?
I have a really embarrassing problem. I cannot have an orgasm without my vibrator. I never even realized it before, but now that I have a serious boyfriend, he is really upset that he can’t get me off without the help of my “friend.” It’s actually causing a rift between us. Sex with him is great, but when it comes time for “my turn” he insists on trying to please me without my vibrator. I refuse to fake it, and then he gets upset that he can’t get me to come, and so he caves and hands me my vibrator. And of course, it makes me orgasm in like two minutes. I feel badly that I rely so much on it, and I was wondering if you had any advice on how to fix this? We really love each other, and he just feels inadequate in the bedroom. Any suggestions?
A male friend of mine befriended a woman who is married. In the time they've spent as friends, they seem to have racked up a pretty tight relationship, constantly going on dinner dates and spending time alone with no other friends around. When he's not with her, he spends his time texting her or talking about her nonstop. He gives gifts and sends flirtatious notes, too.
The woman plans to divorce her husband, and my friend is dead set on a relationship happening in the near future.
Others have said their cozy relationship smells of extra-marital affairs, but my friend says otherwise, and I struggle to believe him, but I continue to do so. My friend knows I don't condone cheating and knows our friendship would be over if that happened in his case.
I've suggested he needs to cool off for a bit, but he fails to take my advice and continues sneaking around to hang out with her, going as far to say I'm not being supportive, and threatening an end to our friendship.
I'm at my wits' end here. I don't know if they've done anything sexual, but his lack of regard for me and shady character in this situation makes me question the type of person he is. He's not who I thought I became friends with.
I fully support men and women being friends, but also know there's a fine line between friendship and flirting.
I have been dating this really great guy for about three months now, but I feel like something shady is going on. I have never been to his house, we only meet at my place or at the location we have decided to have our date at. It’s weird. He won’t tell me where he lives...only the general area, and he takes these really strange phone calls, keeping his voice down, like he doesn’t want me to hear. Whenever I ask who it was, he just says “wrong number” or “work.” But, I don’t believe him. So, the other night, he was taking a shower at my place (he always does after we have sex) and I went through his wallet (he always keeps his phone with him). I found a picture of two little kids and an attractive woman. I think this is his family. Am I crazy, or is this guy trying to live a double life?? What do I do?
My love life sucked this year. I work a high stress job (probably over 80 hours a week) and haven’t had the time to date. My friends keep telling me to do online dating, but that’s creepy, right? I’m not sure how to meet people with my schedule, and I want to fall in love in 2013. Any suggestions to help get me out of this love-less (and sex-less) rut?
My boyfriend just proposed (yay!) However, my conservative mother and step-father don’t approve of him as husband material. He’s a writer, and works at Starbucks while going for his Master’s in English. He wants to teach at a university after he’s done. We’ve been together for three years, and I’m crazy in love with him. My parents don’t think he is “good enough” for me. My step-father is a cardiologist and my mother is a psychiatrist. They both want me to marry someone who can provide for me, especially in these tough times. But I am working on my MBA, and I think we are a perfect match. They always liked him until the proposal. My mom looked at my ring (which is beautiful) and said, “That’s it, huh?”
My girlfriend and I agreed that we weren’t going to buy each other Christmas presents this year because we are saving up for a house. However, I talked with her best friend yesterday and she told me that my girlfriend thinks that I am still going to splurge and get her something special. I don’t know what to do. She told me no gifts, and I said the same, but now she wants something? If I get her something, I feel like I will be caving in, especially since we are trying to save for a house. But, I don’t want to piss her off, either.
My boyfriend recently caught me sexting my ex-boyfriend. It was a bad decision on my part, I know. He texted me late at night (drunk) and we got into some steamy conversation. My boyfriend found out and now he is threatening to break up with me if I don’t cut my ex out of my life. I don’t know what to do. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now, but I’ve known my ex for almost seven years. I don’t know if I want him out of my life, but I really love my boyfriend. What should I do?
