Relationship Counselor: Kathy Labriola
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Relationship Counselor: Kathy LabriolaWhat to Do If Your Partner is Jealous
When your partner is in the midst of a jealousy attack, they need compassion and reassurance that they are loved. Often their jealousy triggers a defensive response and a huge argument.
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Relationship Counselor: Kathy LabriolaUnmask the Green Eyed Monster: Part 4: Realistic VS Irrational Jealousy
A good exercise to try when you are feeling jealous is to go through these four conditions and ask yourself if all four are met. If less than all four are true, your jealousy is unfounded and you can take steps to get it under control.
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Relationship Counselor: Kathy LabriolaUnmask the Green Eyed Monster: Part Three: Jealousy is Your Ally
I have come to believe that jealousy is a normal, natural response that serves a valid purpose. It comes up when we feel threatened with loss of something precious to us, and alerts us to pay attention to our relationships to make sure they are safe and sound.
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Relationship Counselor: Kathy LabriolaUnmask the Green Eyed Monster: Part Two: Manage the 5 Cardinal Fears Sparked by Jealousy
What is the most valuable thing you receive from this relationship that caused you to fall in love with your partner? That is likely to be the thing you are most afraid of losing, and the fear of that loss is usually the spark that ignites the jealousy attack.
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Relationship Counselor: Kathy LabriolaUnmask the Green Eyed Monster: Part One: The Origins of Jealousy
Everyone from philosophers to psychologists to evolutionary biologists have weighed in with theories about the origins of jealousy and why it exists. I advise clients to treat jealousy as a given: assume that it will occur, and be prepared with strategies to successfully address it and minimize the distress.
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Relationship Counselor: Kathy LabriolaIdentitfying as Bisexual…What Does That Mean?
Some bisexual people say that discovering the label “bisexual” was pivotal in understanding and accepting their sexual orientation. Most experience relief when they hear the word “bisexual” for the first time, because they finally have a word that mirrors their experience and feelings.
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Relationship Counselor: Kathy LabriolaThe 13 Forms of Bisexuality
Many bisexual people complain that they feel like outsiders in both the straight and gay/lesbian worlds. They don’t fit in anywhere, feeling isolated and confused because they lack any community where they can find acceptance and role models.
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Relationship Counselor: Kathy LabriolaDifferences Between Polyamory and Sex Addiction: Part Two
I have worked with many sex, love, and relationship addicts who have been able to develop healthier beliefs and behaviors. If they are unhappy with the problems their addictions are causing in their lives, and willing to seek help, they can dramatically improve their relationship patterns.
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Relationship Counselor: Kathy LabriolaSex Addiction and Open Relationships: Part One
Many people believe that if someone has more than one sexual or romantic partner, they must be a sex addict. If we explain that polyamory is not just about sex, it is about loving more, then they say we are love and relationship addicts.